Yes, yes you can.
Most preggos have had the unfortunate incident of hearing something so utterly stupid and asinine that they cannot believe they heard right. You are left either with your mouth hanging open in a combo of surprise and disgust or you miraculously find your palm across someones delicate face.
Let's list some of these gems, shall we?
1) Are you dieting?
I suffered through severe pregnancy sickness (I refuse to call it "morning sickness", as should everyone who as suffered through it). As a result I lost quite a few lbs. I am a curvy girl (and no that's not a euphemism for fat), so it shows. Now, I was at an event, and someone there who hadn't seen me in a couple of months, but knew that I was pregnant, asked if I had lost weight. I said I had, but I didn't feel the need to explain because I didn't feel like talking about what I experienced. In any case, she didn't ask that. This angel went on to ask if I was on a diet. I was floored. DIET?!? I asked her to repeat herself, I was so sure I misheard her. She repeated the question. I looked at her and replied that I was in fact on a diet. Someone who was there and knew what I had been going through, quickly jumped to explain the weight loss.
Anyone who went through pregnancy sickness KNOWS the fears that accompany you ALL DAY EVERY DAY. Especially the fear that you are not giving your little one enough nutrients. The worry when your little peanut is measuring small. The fear when you can't feel him move when everyone says you should. For someone to actually suggest that you would do that to yourself on purpose completely floored me.
2) You'll be fine, why when I was pregnant...
Ok, this really annoys me. First off, I don't share my experience unless asked, second, if you ask, I assume you really want to know. Third, yes, your experience may have been waaaay worse, but guess what heffa? I'm going through it NOW, and you're not helping.
3) You don't even have a bump!
Why do people say this? I mean you're already worried that your little patootie is too little, is this supposed to be a compliment?
Things You Should Say
1) You're glowing
She knows she looks like a hot mess, but when you tell her she's glowing (which she is), she will believe you because she knows the joy she has carrying her little one must be obvious.
That's it!
Wish I had that coupon months ago.
ReplyDeleteYou are right on about the remarks, and if you have a 2nd...3rd baby there will be those who have really nasty, idiotic comments like " why would you get yourself into THAT situation again...".
Gah, I really hate hearing people give unwanted advice.
Salam sis.
Hehehe. Depending on who's asking, you can always say, "Well, it is so fun trying to get here, who can resist?"
ReplyDeleteHah, I WISH I had the gall to say something like that.
My all time favorite (and it seems a lot of women get this) is, "Have you tried crackers?"
Aaarrrrrgh!! I know they're trying to help, but sometimes, a sincere smile is enough!